New Year & Changes Needed - Career Change or Business Help/Partner Possibilities???

rockits

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No advice from me - but like others I applaud the realisation that you’re not happy and you need to do something about it...

I also think talking about it, and being open, is a big positive as internalising it all can be bad for mental wellbeing, etc. I hope you find a route through it all that works for you and you get back to having a spring in your step....
Thanks Jon....much appreciated.

I'm wondering how much of the Tinnitus is playing a part in all of this as it has certainly got noticeably worse. It is pretty all consuming constantly and is definitely having a big impact. I spoke to Bupa and going to have a web chat with a GP tomorrow that I have never done before. Will just need a letter of referral then can get a specialist to look at it all and run some tests.

Don't laugh but I had one second.....yes one second of silence with no Tinnitus last month which has never happened for as long as I can remember.

It makes me believe something has triggered and is possibly causing it. It can be a multitude of things from what I've read. Some treatable/curable some not.
 

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Wish you well in whatever direction you choose to follow. You clearly have skills that will serve you well on the journey!
Thanks Wattie

I think I'm getting bored/tired of traveling on this journey. Maybe mooring up at a pub for a while wouldn't be such a bad thing
 

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Thanks Wattie
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I think I'm getting bored/tired of traveling on this journey. Maybe mooring up at a pub for a while wouldn't be such a bad thing
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Well, at least you’re travelling in style in that Aston!
I thought your post was a very endearing one. Open, honest.courageous.
I’m sure many can relate to it.
Perhaps a little break would do you good although I suspect that may be hard for you. I get the feeling you live eat and breathe your business which is why it’s done well. Good luck with it all and if you ever moor up on the GC, I’ll buy you a beer or 3!
 

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LOL....got to have some trappings ;) I guess much of it is compensating for underlying issues but I am sure we all have those.

I am sure many can relate to much of this as some will be in a similar boat of age, position, thoughts etc. so hopefully we can all help each other along the way.

I have considered selling up and breaking completely. Although no doubt it would be a great short term release maybe to weather the storm and get to a better place could easily shorten the overall journey time.

My business is only very small but still all consuming at times but not as bad as it was in the earlier years. I was 17 years younger then though!
 

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Dean you seem like a troubled man when you post whether it be a bitter response or a thread like this which seems like a bit of a cry for help. I will read and digest the whole thing later but if you ever want to talk then I’d love to. What I always say is do what your passion is... you love cars as we all do so maybe try to move into something involving them if you have the patience? Ping me a message as I’d love to talk....
 

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I need to reply to you Dean.

Basically I hit the same wall as you in my early 40’s. So I bought up commercial property to retire early.

Dropped to 4 day week in 2018 then planned 3 day week this year, then 2...1....etc

I, like you was glossing over the obvious that actually I was not done yet but with the sands in the hourglass slipping away I elected to follow my heart rather than my head.

You know the rest and I don’t regret it.

My advise is don’t spread yourself too thin. You can’t run two businesses effectively at the same time IMHO. So get the existing company sorted first so you can draw a basic wage without little or no input, then chase the dream.

Good luck, you have my number, call anytime.
 

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Dean you seem like a troubled man when you post whether it be a bitter response or a thread like this which seems like a bit of a cry for help. I will read and digest the whole thing later but if you ever want to talk then I’d love to. What I always say is do what your passion is... you love cars as we all do so maybe try to move into something involving them if you have the patience? Ping me a message as I’d love to talk....

Thanks Phil. I've dropped you a PM but will reply here in case others might find an interest.

I'm OK, in pretty good shape and certainly not a cry for help. I'm not that close to the abyss that's for sure

It is merely some realisations and the desire to not accept when things aren't right. Also when you know you can do more or better and have so much good to give it is hard to accept when this is not being realised.

I have been thinking of changes for some time and yes one of my core passions will be cars with a desire to do more with it. I guess like many of us. I am in the extremely fortunate position to be in good health and have choices with the ability to make changes. This has been through continued hard graft, commitment and sacrifice over 25 odd years so hasn't been achieved lightly. Many are not so fortunate and don't have so many options so I appreciate my position.

A dramatic shift out of where I am now into a car related activity is unlikely in the short term for a couple of reasons. Primarily finance driven of course like many of us. We still have a nice healthy mortgage and monthly outgoings aren't 5p so there needs to a certain number coming in to keep the books balanced.

The other reason is that as we know the automotive sector is all over the shop at the moment and going through massive change. It would be unrealistic and a likely fairly immense undertaking to create something from scratch and produce the current required income in a reasonable timeframe. Also the IT/tech sector is pretty solid in comparison with no shortage of work with decent rates/margin if you're canny enough so it is easier to generate this numbers. Also I
I have a trading vehicle with good long term customer and business that keep coming back for more.

I would never be afraid to start a new business from scratch in a totally different sector at all. I have done it before and would do it again. The is years of knowledge, experience and wide ability with self funding to a point. Then options from family investment/funding I suspect only a chat away if required.

I am going to explore all and any possibilities. My initial thoughts is that 2 people are required to make massive inroads to where I know we need to be. A youngish (although not necessarily so) general IT/tech engineer. Also a day to day office glue type organiser to keep on top of everything, tight and efficient.

I would say it would likely need the engineer first that gives me more fairly immediate time to find an office person and spend enough time with each initially to get them up to speed. I would like think a local Hertfordshire/North London person would make the most sense but again not cast in stone.

I can create a nice office/environment here on the land we have, we have great connectivity now and it would be a nice place to work. Less travel/commuting with low business costs so we wil be nice tight and efficient to be able to be ultra competitive in the market place. I suspect a year is realistic to find and get both people up to speed.

The other option is maybe a little upside down but an ideal time for a partner style person to enter. I have been running things on my own for a long time. Sometimes it is nice to share loads, responsibilities and roles at that level. Also getting a different angle or opinion on things. It may suit a similar mirror like person/scenario merging two businesses together in effect. Especially if that person likes their cars and is interested in maybe starting other businesses.

As Jon eluded to, just by writing all this down and creating discussion is helping already. I think some fairly small achievable steps in the right direction allows further bigger steps.

I don't think Brexit and the lack of confidence or perceived confidence has helped. However it has made me shrink things down, get smaller/tighter and that gives great advantages to be able to grow from.

It is not a bad place to be at all but balance is key and the desire to work less or smarter and less hard is the way forward.
 

rockits

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I need to reply to you Dean.

Basically I hit the same wall as you in my early 40’s. So I bought up commercial property to retire early.

Dropped to 4 day week in 2018 then planned 3 day week this year, then 2...1....etc

I, like you was glossing over the obvious that actually I was not done yet but with the sands in the hourglass slipping away I elected to follow my heart rather than my head.

You know the rest and I don’t regret it.

My advise is don’t spread yourself too thin. You can’t run two businesses effectively at the same time IMHO. So get the existing company sorted first so you can draw a basic wage without little or no input, then chase the dream.

Good luck, you have my number, call anytime.
Thanks Matt. I think my situation is all pointing to a similar likely route. Maybe without the commercial property element. However with a few key additional resources and a little growth it would certainly allow me to work less days/hours and take a more strategic back seat. Also creating more time for other projects/opportunities.

My multiple businesses may be a little misleading as there is one main core trading entity in reality at the moment. The first business has wound down to dormancy really due to the unresolvable issues with 40% director. However 2nd business has grown due to this. The 3rd business was a new startup with 2 other directors that are no longer. Another story! I had the time back then to explore new ideas and this was one. It is still very valid and active as a business although strictly the Companies House registration has had complications that will be resolved.
 

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Funnily enough one of the 4 similarish business I have had meetings with over the last few years discussing a potential sale, purchase or merger is pretty local (in Barnet) and is called Rock IT Ltd when my 1st business is Rock IT Services Ltd. He started it in 2000 and me in 2002.

The door is still ajar on this avenue.

I also spoke to a fairly local Internet Line company about buying part of 2nd business so selling off all the Internet Line business for the lines we resell/provide to many customer.

Again both still an option but not sure if either are good or the best options. Being on my own mostly with 3 fairly part time staff and hands on doing 99% of the fee paying work affords me little time for progressing these options at the moment.
 

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Thanks Jon....much appreciated.

I'm wondering how much of the Tinnitus is playing a part in all of this as it has certainly got noticeably worse. It is pretty all consuming constantly and is definitely having a big impact. I spoke to Bupa and going to have a web chat with a GP tomorrow that I have never done before. Will just need a letter of referral then can get a specialist to look at it all and run some tests.

Don't laugh but I had one second.....yes one second of silence with no Tinnitus last month which has never happened for as long as I can remember.

It makes me believe something has triggered and is possibly causing it. It can be a multitude of things from what I've read. Some treatable/curable some not.
Dean
I am a fellow tinnitus sufferer and have been for +30years.
Originally mine was caused by a tumour (acoustic neuroma) but got worse due to nerve damage after the surgery. It can be a mood sapping condition with very few treatments, in my case no treatment at all. Best of luck
 

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Dean
I am a fellow tinnitus sufferer and have been for +30years.
Originally mine was caused by a tumour (acoustic neuroma) but got worse due to nerve damage after the surgery. It can be a mood sapping condition with very few treatments, in my case no treatment at all. Best of luck
Thanks Sam. That is good to know....well sorry no not really for you of course! Sorry to hear (pardon the pun!) that.

I had a video consultation with a GP via the Bupa Babylon app this afternoon and have been referred to a specialist. We will see what they find.

I take it you you have been through lots of options to seek a cure or relief? Have you revisited any time recently to see if there are any medical advances that could help now when they couldn't before?

I will start a.dedciated thread on this as others might have the same and anything I discover on my pending journey could be useful to them maybe yourself as well.

Bizarrely enough I only really knew about it maybe 2 years ago coming across an MBClubUK members thread. I thought it was normal or didn't realise before.
 

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My tinnitus is caused by nerve damage (the hearing nerve was sacrificed during the operation) so very limited options, one would be to open me uk again and cut the nerve - could cure it or make it worse and I am not up for that.
So for me it’s coping strategies - I have tried white noise machine to help me get to sleep but nothing really helps, so I just count my blessings that the tumour has gone and not returned and live with it.
Sometime the very last measure of a bottle gin or whisky does the trick ;)
 

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Excuse me asking about tinnitus but I can hear a high pitched wine in my head 24/7 since I can remember, I filter it out but if I concentrate on it it becomes for want of a better word, deafening.

I've always assumed it was the sound of silence, if you can imagine what I mean.

I've never worked in loud environments, played in a few band and been a some loud gig, had my hearing tested it was perfect. (unlike my eyes!)
 

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To all of you who suffer from Tinnitus, it can be a very debilitating condition depending on the severity of it. I have been in contact with an Australian chap by the name of Liam Bohem who runs a company called 'Triumph Over Tinnitus'. He has a structured regime he has designed over many years of research and travelling and has cured hundreds of people (including himself) who have suffered with this condition. he claims it doesn't matter how you attained Tinnitus, it can be cured!! The structure is no walk in the park and may take months of following it before noticing an improvement, but it actually makes sense. He has many posts on Youtube so take a look, and if you have any questions please contact me.
 

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To all of you who suffer from Tinnitus, it can be a very debilitating condition depending on the severity of it. I have been in contact with an Australian chap by the name of Liam Bohem who runs a company called 'Triumph Over Tinnitus'. He has a structured regime he has designed over many years of research and travelling and has cured hundreds of people (including himself) who have suffered with this condition. he claims it doesn't matter how you attained Tinnitus, it can be cured!! The structure is no walk in the park and may take months of following it before noticing an improvement, but it actually makes sense. He has many posts on Youtube so take a look, and if you have any questions please contact me.
I will take a look
 

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Excuse me asking about tinnitus but I can hear a high pitched wine in my head 24/7 since I can remember, I filter it out but if I concentrate on it it becomes for want of a better word, deafening.

I've always assumed it was the sound of silence, if you can imagine what I mean.

I've never worked in loud environments, played in a few band and been a some loud gig, had my hearing tested it was perfect. (unlike my eyes!)
Sounds like Tinnitus to me, but I am not a Doctor
 

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To all of you who suffer from Tinnitus, it can be a very debilitating condition depending on the severity of it. I have been in contact with an Australian chap by the name of Liam Bohem who runs a company called 'Triumph Over Tinnitus'. He has a structured regime he has designed over many years of research and travelling and has cured hundreds of people (including himself) who have suffered with this condition. he claims it doesn't matter how you attained Tinnitus, it can be cured!! The structure is no walk in the park and may take months of following it before noticing an improvement, but it actually makes sense. He has many posts on Youtube so take a look, and if you have any questions please contact me.

Not a lot of love for Liam Bohem here: https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/liam-boehm-—-a-scammer-or-what.30735/

I'm glad to say that I don't have tinnitus, and have really no personal experience to share other than this: An acquaintance who does have it was telling me that the nearest he got to a 'cure' was working with a cognitive behavioral therapist where he basically 'learned not to mind it so much'. He said it is still, in a literal sense, just as bad as ever, but he learned some techniques to reduce how aggravating his experience of it was. YMMV
 

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To all of you who suffer from Tinnitus, it can be a very debilitating condition depending on the severity of it. I have been in contact with an Australian chap by the name of Liam Bohem who runs a company called 'Triumph Over Tinnitus'. He has a structured regime he has designed over many years of research and travelling and has cured hundreds of people (including himself) who have suffered with this condition. he claims it doesn't matter how you attained Tinnitus, it can be cured!! The structure is no walk in the park and may take months of following it before noticing an improvement, but it actually makes sense. He has many posts on Youtube so take a look, and if you have any questions please contact me.
ooh, I will take a look too.

I have had tinnitus since I crashed my push bike, did the superman thing and the first thing I hit was a 30mph sign down the side of my head behind my ear. Woke up in the bath at home with no idea of what happened. Apparently a neighbour saw me out on the grass and scooped me up and took me home.

Lost 50% hearing in one ear and constant tinnitus.

I was always led to believe the only way to get over it was to ignore it. Mind you this was 1988.
 

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ooh, I will take a look too.

I have had tinnitus since I crashed my push bike, did the superman thing and the first thing I hit was a 30mph sign down the side of my head behind my ear. Woke up in the bath at home with no idea of what happened. Apparently a neighbour saw me out on the grass and scooped me up and took me home.

Lost 50% hearing in one ear and constant tinnitus.

I was always led to believe the only way to get over it was to ignore it. Mind you this was 1988.
Ouch!!...............Got to be worth a look at least, and, no harm in trying it out??!!