This relay issue puzzles me. The relay is an electrical switch, a 12 volt low current signal energises the relay allowing a high 12 volt current to flow to the F1 pump, and the pump motor runs. So as long as the relay amp rating is higher than the ampage rating of the F1 pump motor, all should be well. So you should be able to use the 'standard' relay or a latter 'uprated' relay with the original F1 pump, but assuming the latter 'uprated' F1 pump has a higher current requirement, the 'uprated' relay must always be used with that pump.
I can't understand how the relay gets blamed for F1 pump failures. As the relay is just a switch, on or off, how can this cause the F1 pump to fail? Surely the F1 motor fails because it's worn out after completing x number of cycles, you can't blame the relay for that, it's told by the cars ECU when to energise.
The only issue I can see, is that the relay fails due to either a) incorrectly sized, too low a rated current capacity. b) it exceeds it's design number of switch cycles c) poor quality and it burns out.
Have I understood correctly the relationship between the relay and pump?
Thanks,
Mike