What would you do?

[rossyl]

So a mate, who is meant to be a good mate and love cars, on his way home from a party at my house walks past my car that is parked on the road. In the dust that's settled on the car, he writes obscenities all over the car. Everywhere.

He's drunk, having enjoyed all my food and drink. He hasn't fully admitted, instead obviously and strongly implied in a very c*cky manner.

He could've easily scratched the car. He wouldn't have offered to pay a penny if he did. Worse is that his actions could've spurred on some other idiot to really vandalise my car. Added to this is the fact he turned up many hours late to a fairly formal party, without a word of apology.

So, how would you react, if someone did that to your pride and joy?
R

 

[MAF260]

I predict that Benny will give you the best advice.....


Sounds to me like you need to evaluate your friendship. Anyone that disrespectful would never hear from me again.

 

[highlander]

think you have answered your own Q by referring to him as "meant to be..."
when drunk he is clearly no mate and does not love cars or he would not have done that.........do you really need a "mate" like that in your life? sort him or lose him.

 

[allandwf]

Hi predict Benny would have him hung drawn and quartered! I'd be none to pleased either, get him told, and see how he reacts then take it from there.

 

[philw696]

Yeah you don't need people like that around you.
Not funny at all.
Phil.

 

[Contigo]

Have a word with him and tell him that his mum's got two cnuts and he's one of them!

 

[BennyD]

I think I would have to re-evaluate my relationship with such a kn0b. In the meantime, a swift boot to the bollox would make him re-evaluate his relationship with you. Life is too short to be wasted on d!ckheads like that.

 

[CatmanV2]

Odd concept of friend. Find some more, I think.

C

 

[rossyl]

Thanks guys.

This happened on the weekend, and I waited till today to really have a word. It's along the same lines as what you've all said. That gives me some comfort, as I thought I'd overreacted. If anything I've not said enough.

In my mind I could let it go. But what next? A friendship without mutual respect isn't much of a friendship.

 

[CliveP1]

its respecting other people items which he clearly doesn't.

so could always take a hammer to the hand that did it

 

[Mr.Cambio]

A friendship without mutual respect isn't much of a friendship.

This stands for any kind of relationship, i believe.

I would talk to him and ask for an excuse. If he wouldn't respond, he's off my friend's list.

But let me add the following. You know i am from a different culture, land etc etc. I have seen many times in Greece, Brittish tourists that drink too much, and later on they do stupid/crazy things, things that they wouldn't do under normal conditions. Drinking is a habbit, a good habitt/tradition for you as a nation, but if drinking gets too much, then no one can trake control of that. Even the best friend. People are weak and sometimes they are afraid of apologising.

 

[Grinzzz]

Get him drunk, take him to tattoo parlour. Pretty proportionate response I'd say.

 

[BennyD]

Get him drunk, take him to tattoo parlour. Pretty proportionate response I'd say.

Great idea Grinzz. A four letter word, 2 inches high, starting with a C or a T. On his forehead.

 

[highlander]

Get him drunk, take him to tattoo parlour. Pretty proportionate response I'd say.

and what does a pretty proportionate look like as a tattoo?

 

[zagatoes30]

Friends understand you and your choices, this guy doesn't get either - bye

 

[conaero]

Ok let's try and take an objectionable look at this.

People do stupid things when they have been drinking...I've done it, you have all done it so I think you should give him some slack here. What you have to do is just say that you weren't very impressed with his actions and that you don't want it to happen again. He'll probably either apologise or laugh his way out of it.

Either way, consider it strike one and see if he acts more restraint from then on.

If not, then you can ding him off knowing you were wholly reasonable and justified in your actions.

 

[c4sman]

This is very simple. No mate would do that to your car. That gives you your answer, drunk or not drunk.

 

[dem maser]

The alchohol always makes us honest......our true feelings come out

 

[dem maser]

You should have invited me.....i would wipe the dirt off your car when drunk

 

[davy83]

I suspect this friend is jealous of the car, and whether he realises this or not that is what prompted the scribbling on the car. Consciously or not he was trying to down grade how cool your car was? What does he drive as a matter of interest? Its always true that no matter what people say on the surface its never easy of you are doing well and some one else is not doing so well? If he is doing better than you and has a Maclaren or a Veyron or whatever then he's a d*&k and you should find better friends. At the end of the day he is your friend and you are the only one who knows what that is worth to you.