What would you do?

[Wattie]

Ok let's try and take an objectionable look at this.

People do stupid things when they have been drinking...I've done it, you have all done it so I think you should give him some slack here. What you have to do is just say that you weren't very impressed with his actions and that you don't want it to happen again. He'll probably either apologise or laugh his way out of it.

Either way, consider it strike one and see if he acts more restraint from then on.

If not, then you can ding him off knowing you were wholly reasonable and justified in your actions.

Agreed, have a chat with him and sort it out.
If he does it again then it's different.
Cheers Wattie

 

[Elliott653]

I've never EVER done anything downright stupid and anti-social when I've been drunk. Not once. Ever. I'm a paragon of probity when I'm ******. Oh yes. I should get a medal. I remember saying that to the friendly police man at Edmonton nick that night, many years ago.

 

[rossyl]

We play boyish pranks on each other. Well he plays them on the rest of us mainly, and if we try and get him back he will do something so extreme that you can't really retaliate. That said he doesn't do it with malice, just as a joke.

This was different as it was my personal property, was offensive, seemed aggressive and easily could've spurred on someone to vandalise my car. Also, it is different to do something like in front of someone's face, rather than behind their back. If they'd of just drawn an "appendage" on my car, I would've laughed. But writing the C word multiple times on every panel and not telling me isn't the same.

I'd like not think that jealousy is a factor, but I can't be sure. For someone marginally still in their 20's, my other mates don't drive as nice a car.

He's a good friend and I don't want to fall out with him. But when you think like your mates are treating you badly, I think you should say something.

 

[Smasher]

I have to say I have mates that are well upto the practical jokes, and even the worst of them would not do anything like that, i would imagine there was a hint of jelousy involved. My answer to you would be that if the paint isn't damaged, then a quiet word to say it was a bit too far, but luckily the paint work wasn't damaged. If it is damaged i would be getting a quote to have the bodywork detailled and take the bill to him. If he was a true friend he would be imbarresed and pay up.

But i have to say maybe the car shouldn't have been dirty in the first place!!!!

Hopefully your pride and joy is not damaged, i would feel gutted.

 

[Guest 1678]

My take on all this is simple - if he hasn't had the emotional intelligence to apologise then I would have a 'cooling off' period. Not sure any retribution would do anything other than crank up the tension, given the high kinks he likes to create. No need to fall out, but you are obviously smarting from his actions, but seem to want to maintain a friendship. Make it quietly clear it was not amusing and create some space.

I wouldn't be surprised if he were feeling a little sheepish, even if it doesn't show.

Good luck

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[Emtee]

Print out the three pages of this thread and politely ask him to give them a read through.

 

[Felonious Crud]

He sounds like a **** but perhaps there's more to him than that. Ask yourself what else you get out of the friendship - can you count in him to help if everything goes to sh!t, do you confide in one another and value one another's opinions and judgments? If not he sounds more like a bloke you know than a friend and on that basis I'd not bother inviting him to any more parties. But you might want to take Ben's advice and kick him in the crackers as well.

 

[dem maser]

Print out the three pages of this thread and politely ask him to give them a read through.

that's what id do...........

 

[c4sman]

You should have invited me.....i would wipe the dirt off your car when drunk

I might do that also, but only after I'd applied plenty of quick detailer, followed by claying, a machine polish and carnuba wax